Friday, August 08, 2008

Judge not,


unless you've never cheated on your cancer-stricken wife, like some people:

Edwards admits to affair he denied as candidate, by Pete Yost, AP via Yahoo! News.

This just in: Elizabeth Edwards standing by husband after affair, by Pete Yost, AP via Yahoo! News.

I have lots of thoughts about this situation. The first thought relates to women like Elizabeth Edwards and Michelle Obama (no, there is not a similar scandal a-brewing for Barack). How do these women do it? How do these women look at their multiple degrees and their own high potential for success, then decide, "I am going to dedicate my life to supporting my husband's dream of becoming the President of the United States"? Because that is what they did. These two women each got their law degree from the same school as their respective husbands did. Yet their husbands were the ones who decided to take the spotlight as US Senators and presidential candidates. Their husbands also decided to keep their last names.

My second thought is regarding any of you readers who are thinking to yourself, "Bianca would be a great first lady. I should marry her before I run for President." Before you call the caterers, ruminate on this: If my spouse cheated on me while I had cancer, I would not then "stand by" my spouse, in theory or in reality. I would not continue to support my spouse's campaign. I would tell my spouse to find another place to live. They could find their clothes to the left, if not out on the street. And if my spouse ever thought about running for any national office again, I would never let the mainstream news media outlets ever forget that my spouse cheated on me while I had cancer.

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4 comments:

Tobes said...

I live for your posts, Bianca! You said it all here.

Renee said...

How do these women do it? How do these women look at their multiple degrees and their own high potential for success, then decide, "I am going to dedicate my life to supporting my husband's dream of becoming the President of the United States"? Because that is what they did.

What these women have in common is that they are mothers..and mothers of multiple children at that. I firmly believe that parenting becomes a full-time job for women and a part-time job for men thus freeing them to pursue their ambitions. This makes a huge difference on who is successful in our society. Until parenting becomes a 50/50 task and the gov't passes laws concerning daycare so that women can pursue our ambitions we will remain the woman behind the man.

angryyoungwoman said...

Amen. I also do not understand how a woman can stand by a man who has cheated, don't understand how she can subjugate her dreams to his dreams. Then again, I never do plan on having kids, so that's not a factor for me.

Bianca Reagan said...

Thank you, tobes!

renee, I need a man to get behind me, and not in a dirty way. I have business to take care of, so he needs to be able to raise my kids. Er, our kids.

ayw, that's sad about the no kids part. You have great stuff to pass on. But it's okay to be child free.